Forgiveness is Key to a Happy Life

“Forgive me for the times I have not been a dutiful son, obeying the commandments, and making my life a sacrifice in tribute to your sacrifice on Calvary to forgive my sins.”

These are the words from A Man’s Prayer (PDF).  God loves us that He sent His only Son into the world to save us from ourselves. As Jesus was on the Cross, as an expression of His love, He looked up to God and said “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.”

How much more should we forgive others?

We not only live in a war-torn world but, more so today, in a country that seems torn apart. With all the shootings, protests, and how people think nothing to crucify each other, especially on social media, not to mention the tone of Politian’s today. Yes, we need a large dose of forgiveness in our society.

So, I have a plan for you ….

I don’t know if you would call it a resolution, because I think resolutions are like going to the dentist twice a year. Unless you brush your teeth every day, it doesn’t make a difference.

So here is the plan ..

About a year ago I decided to practice forgiveness. The result came to be that I started to experience a more happy life. I didn’t let things bother me as much. I didn’t let people know my mind unless they asked my opinion (that took some time!). When my wife or kids did those things that drove me nust (c’mon guy’s, you know what I mean) I just said a little prayer “Lord forgive them and me” and handed it to Him.

If you think about it, anger, and lack of forgiveness, happens mostly when things are not going our way. When we reach out to others in forgiveness we become a better person, instead of letting things eat us up inside. People also respond in a more positive way.

So, as a picture action and reminder, when something called for my attention to forgive, I picture in my mind to ‘open my fore arm and give’ = for give.

So I challenge you to make this a plan, and in a few weeks I’ll do a follow up post and then let me know in the comments how things are going, or contact me directly if you prefer.

Also, some other ways to practice forgiveness is with confession, or maybe with, or for, your spouse and the prayer for a broken marriage and other resources on the CMCS website.

The list to forgive is endless as I’m sure you can imagine.  Forgiveness is key to a happy life … think about it.

Frank J Casella is a photographer, and co-founder of the Catholic Chicago Men’s Forum.

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Life Mission. Don’t Leave Earth Without It!

By Frank J Casella

I’m sure that you’ve heard of a Lenten Mission and a Mission Statement, but have you heard of a Life Mission?  Do you have a Life Mission and, if so, what is it?

The purpose of a Mission is defined as a vocation or calling of an (religious) organization. As Catholics we are called as a Church to go out into the world and spread the Gospel.

Through a Lenten Mission we are renewed to be an living example of this Mission.

The Mission Statement of Catholic Men Chicago Southland works towards “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man” …..  to nurture a Man’s character through his spiritual journey.

A Life Mission, however, is the Gospel Mission made personal by transformation from good intentions into right-action.

For example, my life mission is “To be the Man that God has called me to be, being the best husband and father for my family, to be a ‘real’ person to those around me, and to equip others to live a compelling life so they help to equip others.”  A Life Mission is making the Mission Statement personal to the point of living it, eating it, breathing it, sleeping it, etc. (you get the point). It’s transforming Holy Church into Holy Life(style).

I live out my Life Mission by:  1) Daily prayer to see where God is at work in my life, and to meet Him in that work. 2) Spending meaningful time with my wife and kids, and to encourage and lead them prayerfully in their life’s purpose. 3) Allowing my lifestyle and relationship with others to be a living example of my relationship with Jesus Christ – Some people call this servant leadership.

My late Father used to say the famous quote, that if you don’t stand for something then you’ll fall for anything.

Hence, your Life Mission should be your identity in how you serve Jesus Christ, and not by what you do for a living or by what you wear, etc. It’s who you are as a person, and not what you do.


“If we build into ourselves a deep understanding and conviction that serving the needs of other human beings is the reason we profit, that the reason we earn money is because we are focused on serving the needs of other people, other people will see this. We must commit ourselves to these convictions. Then and only then will the money follow. The money comes automatically.”
― Daniel Lapin, Business Secrets from the Bible: Spiritual Success Strategies for Financial Abundance


When you work for a company, then you are given the company manual. When you become a Catholic you follow the Catechism which leads you to the Bible … God’s Word.  Have you a manual for your life?  In other words, what you do, how you live, and the people whom you hold relationships with will be affected or changed by who you are as a person and your Life Mission.

When I created my Life Mission I then went deeper with my Faith, and something happened …. my friends changed.  Because having one true friend became more meaningful (to me) than to have several ‘friends’.

So, I ask you this question, Man to Man.  What is your Life Mission, and how are you doing it or living it out?  Then too, what is your legacy … how are leaving this life with your wife or kids or those important to you?

The adjustments you make in living your life holy can be felt for three generations.

Do the person’s important to you say ”if Jesus is anything like you, I want to know Him?“  If not, what is stopping this from happening?  Pray and ask God daily how to put your mission into action ..  then watch Him show you .. God’s will is that we depend on Him.


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Some Illinois Roman Catholics weigh in on why they stopped attending Mass

The Diocese of Springfield in Illinois has taken a page from Pope Francis, asking the faithful to reflect on their experiences in the Roman Catholic Church.Specifically, Bishop Thomas John Paprocki has investigated one crucial question: Why have some Roman Catholics in the diocese stopped attending Mass?

via Some Illinois Roman Catholics weigh in on why they stopped attending Mass : Lifestyles.