Be in the Moment and Meet God Where He is at Work

Going through my LinkedIn feed, I came across this post by Father Michael Sliney which caught my eye. It says:

Not meeting expectations?
Start with human relations…,
Feelings and fluctuations…,
But where is your foundation?

Life is messy…filled with bumps,
Never a “hop, skip and jump”,
Jesus had his share of lumps,
He’s not focused on your slump,
Accept his love and fist pump!

Then the graphic reads:

“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening. “

This caught my attention because it made me think of all the people I know who need to let go of their agendas.  But then the thought came to me, call it my years in men’s ministry or wisdom from the Holy Spirit, that said ‘the best way to change others is to change myself first’.

This caused me to think deeper into all the ways that I am stubborn about how things should go, and all the things that are not working because I’ve maybe not let go of them, and instead just live in the moment and see what God does with it.

Case in point, there is this thing about me that when I decide to do something, I do it with great passion or I just don’t do it. And the thought occurred to me that maybe my job is to just plant the seeds in the process of these opportunities instead. To be a contributor of the process, but not the one to bring the process to completion, that may allow the Holy Spirit to open up the heart to hearing the Gospel though we may not see it in the moment.

Do you think?

How many times do we as men find a project and take charge, or fix things or situations with the confidence that we don’t need any help? We know what needs to be done, and how to do it.  And, so, when we see this it should first trigger us to seek what God says about it, even if it takes more time to meet the goal.

When I have done this, other people or circumstances come into the fold that shows a better direction. This is God at work, and we have to be attuned to His voice in these matters.

“But seek first the kingdom [of God] and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides. “ Matthew 6:33

Frank J Casella

The CMCS-Team contributed to this article.

How do you know what God asks of you?

Husbands – If your love is motivated by God, your Wife will know it, and it will be reflected in the climate of your relationship.

Likewise – A Woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to see Him just to find Her.

When I’m talking with Catholic men about their personal holiness, one of the most common things that comes up is how a man says that he can never make his Wife happy. That no matter what he does to stay one step ahead of her, to fix things as us men are wired to do, she is often telling him what he is doing wrong.

My answer to this is simply to please God before your Wife. In other words, when we decide that we want to live life God’s way instead of our way, we are going to have to give up our way and trust that God’s way is better.

Our wives will see in due time how we’ve abandoned our own selfish ways, and get our ego out of our own way, and are waiting on the Lord to show us the better way. In other words, please God in all we do, before others, and your Wife will follow your lead.

God does not need you to do His work. He needs you do be obedient to His will. God’s will is that we depend on Him.

How do you know what God asks of you to please him?


The Holy Spirit is a very powerful aspect of the Holy Trinity, but I believe is taken too much for granted. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “listen to your gut”. What this means in the spiritual life is to listen to your ‘knower’. The Holy Spirit is the communicator for the Father and the Son, and lets you know what they are saying to you.

But the problem we have in our culture today is too many distractions. Things that keep us from true solitude to listen to our own thoughts and what we believe truly, and what God is saying to us truly.

We allow the news media and social media, and opinions of others, to influence what we think and all of this waters down what God is trying to say to us.

Jesus is the source of true power in life, and with your wife. Yet, when we seek our own power outside God’s will is to serve Satan, to be blunt with you.

Ultimately, us men live for an audience of One. God is the only One who is worthy of our affections and allegiance. When we compare ourselves with others, we quickly become consumed with pride or envy, and our passion for Christ quickly fades. To make the choice for Godly passion, we need to value God’s purposes more than distractions and getting ahead of others, and we need to care about people’s souls (including our own) than cars, clothes, and vacations.

It doesn’t come easy because, like the example of Jesus, it is through our struggles and being tempted by Satan beyond our self control that we locate the source of real strength, power, and true freedom in Jesus.

The benefits, as ‘they’ say, are out of this world!

You shall worship the Lord, your God,
and him alone shall you serve.” Luke 4:1

Frank J Casella is a photographer, and co-founder of Bishop Perry’s Catholic Chicago Men’s Forum.