Manhood Monday: Turn From Your Ways and Live

Your weekly dose of “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man”.

From Today’s Readings:

Monday of the Fifth Week of Lent

Verse Before The Gospel  EZ 33:11

I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked man, says the Lord, but rather in his conversion, that he may live.

“Now, I am not saying my parent’s methods of raising us were the best. All I know is that I did not turn out the worse for it. I believe there is something to be said for steering clear of giving birthday gifts and Christmas gifts and gifts in between that symbolize violence and killing so prevalent in our city and other cities across the country. Follow through with the rearing of your kids and grandkids on this. Support your prayers and messaging by fasting from the images and instruments associated with violence. Then, sooner or later, the kids will understand.”

Bishop Joseph Perry, from ‘We Yearn For Peace!’

God bless your week.

The CMCS-Team

Frank’s Photo of the Week

Photo: ‘Family Out For A Walk’ Copyright 2015 Frank J Casella on Fine Art America

Now that we are all called to the stay-at-home guidelines for the COVID-19 virus, I’m noticing several men are saying how this is causing us to focus on our priorities and purpose, and putting things in a more clear perspective.

One of the things that has helped me to do this is to write my thoughts in a quality notebook that will last a generation or two, but you can also to this digital on a Free priviate blog tool like Tumblr or The important thing is to get started, because when we write out thoughts is helps us to know where we stand on things, and our children learn from this as well.

For example, after my Father died in 2009 I came to realize that I learned more from him after he died than when he was living. Because as I experienced life his words and lessons began rolling in my head. So I started to write these things down in a notebook, along with my own life lessons, and I plan to leave these for my children and future generations. After they move out of the house will be a good time to hand them over, and I’m excited to see what happens.

Keep this in mind, it is said that if you start to spend ten minutes to an hour a day with your own thoughts, it will take up to sixty days before you remove all the clutter and eventually can start the hour thinking about yesterday and today! I have found this to be so true!

More on this with my blog post for this Thursday .. stay tuned

Thanks for Reading.

Make it a great week. See you back here again next Monday.

Frank J Casella,
CMCS Executive Director

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What We Learn From Our Children As Catholic Dad’s

By Frank J Casella

You might think that, in talking about what we as Catholic Dads learn from our children, I would share with you the lessons of patience, imagination, humor, creativity, persistence, taking risks, enthusiasm, unconditional love, blind faith, and positive attitude.

Yes, these are important, but there is more to it.

You might think that what we learn from children is a reflection of, or has to do with, the 15 Ways To Be The Man God Calls You To Be.

Yes, but there is still more to it.

Doing an online search, here are what I found as the top 12 lessons we learn from our children:

1. Be yourself 2. Just be happy 3. Skip 4. Make friends 5. Say what you mean, mean what you say 6. Smile 7. Relax… take a nap 8. Sing 9. Be fearless 10. Wonder about everything 11. Explore 12. Play.

I don’t know about you but, I am still working on some of these and, wonder if doing all of them eventually can be reality.

Read on ….

Here is some hope.  If you look at the Catechism of the Catholic Church, it reads at 2228: “Parents’ respect and affection are expressed by the care and attention they devote to bringing up their young children and providing for their physical and spiritual needs. As the children grow up, the same respect and devotion lead parents to educate them in the right use of their reason and freedom.”

…. 2227: “Children in turn contribute to the growth in holiness of their parents. Each and everyone should be generous and tireless in forgiving one another for offenses, quarrels, injustices, and neglect. Mutual affection suggests this. The charity of Christ demands it.”

Does this sound familiar? I think it humanizes all that I said above.

In other words, when you look at Bishop Perry’s Virtues of a Catholic Man, the first item is that “A Catholic man has some sense of what or whom he would die for if necessary” …  and the sixth item is “A Catholic man practices presence with his wife and children”.   

So, what we learn from our children I think is the great responsibility, and gift, God gives us as a Father to make a direct impact on our present generation and the generations to come. As I often say, when you foster a Man in holiness, the positive adjustments he makes creates a upstanding man, husband, or father, and this impact can be felt for three generations.

The time we spend with our family should never be a second thought. It should always be our first thought. Yes we fall short at times but, we only fail when we give up.

This generation of Christians is responsible for this generation of Souls on the earth. If you are not there as Dad to teach them, they learn from the world.

Fathers are, and should be, an positive example to our children and our culture of who Jesus is. So, it should not be a burden to be a Father but, rather, a privilege to carry the torch for what Christ’ example did for us all.

As many good teachers will tell you, the positive lessons shared with our children, what they give back is way more than what we could ever give.

Frank J Casella