Jesus and Coffee

The impact of Dad’s, the Mass, and the Eucharist.

Glorious Morning – A breakfast sandwich with coffee and the morning sunlight.
Copyright 2015 Frank J Casella on Fine Art America

It is the job of the husband and father, as the priest of his family, to make sure his family goes to church, goes to religious ed, follows the sacraments, and prays together.

I often say, that when a Man leads his family to the pew and lives The Virtues of a Catholic Man it will transform the Church and the Community like no other movement.  Studies tell us that Dad’s determine the church habits of their children and thus to a significant degree their eternal destiny.  According to one study, if a father doesnʼt go to church no matter how faithful the mother is, only one child in fifty will become regular church goers.

If only we knew how God regards this Sacrifice, we would risk our lives to be present at a single Mass.

St. Padre Pio 1887-1968

A few short years ago had to give up coffee as a sacrifice to provide more important needs for my family.  I know coffee seems to be simply an everyday commodity but, when you separate your needs from wants, and when you need to put gas in your car (among other things), you look at what is really important. 

This sacrifice has helped me to realize one thing I put before my relationship with Jesus Christ – we all have a hole in our hearts, and we choose to either fill that hole with Jesus and the Eucharist, or something else – coffee is a want that provides me a temporary fix, and the Eucharist is a need that provides me lasting benefits out of this world!

The gift of the Eucharist clearly gives evidence that Jesus incorporated such ritual into his interaction with his disciples. Jesus made powerful use of parables, metaphors and similes to communicate his message and he obviously used words with untold skill and charisma to comfort, to chastise, to challenge and to command, to teach and to guide his own. It is clear, though, that the gift of his body and blood is a ritual, a physical embrace, a kiss that holds us to his heart.

Bishop Joseph Perry

We are blessed so far to live in a country that we’re not forced to give up the Eucharist for some government regulation or more transient pleasure of this world! If you’re not going to Mass on Sunday or bringing your family with you – your legacy – what has stopped that from happening?

As a husband and Father we’re to get our family to Heaven.

The striking thing about the Holy Eucharist is the bond it establishes between love and suffering in the Lord’s own life and in our experience.

Bishop Joseph Perry

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Frank J Casella

Stability of a Father

How a Father is like a Godly figure to his children.

father daughter child carry shoulders stability photo people
Stability – A Father is like a tower to a child’s life, a Godly figure of carrying us and being our hero. (Copyright 2013 Frank J Casella on Fine Art America)

I yanked this picture out of my archives, because I think it sends an important message. We need to have pictures like this as examples to carry through the generations. Because the importance of this is taken for granted.

I recently went to a parade with my family. Next to us was a little girl who wanted her dad to lift her up onto his shoulders. But dad refused, several times. The girl looked crushed, as did her mom. You might think because she didn’t get what she waned, but what I saw in her eyes was she wanted her Dad, and she wanted him to save the day and not only let her look down the road at the parade coming, but to carry her and be her source of stability.

Instead, Dad would rather stare at his phone, or put his hands on his wife’s butt. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and place for these, and a parade with family is not it. The roll of the Father is to set the tone for the household and to get his family to Heaven.

Likewise, my family has a rather old Golden Retriever Dog. He has been though so much we call him The Wonder Dog, and his name is Buddy. When Buddy comes into the house now he has trouble going up the three stairs, we have to lift up his butt to provide support because he can’t do it alone.

This got me to thinking how much God is always there to lift us up with a similar kind of support. How, like Buddy, when we are afraid or can’t do it alone, God is there to lift us up and to trust Him. And the same goes for what we do as dad’s, to lift up our family to provide support and stability … and trust.

This doesn’t matter how much money you make, or what your identity in the world is, when you are a dad you will always be a dad, and your children look up to you as a Godly figure no matter if they tell you this or not.

Frank J Casella

What We Learn From Our Children As Catholic Dad’s

By Frank J Casella

You might think that, in talking about what we as Catholic Dads learn from our children, I would share with you the lessons of patience, imagination, humor, creativity, persistence, taking risks, enthusiasm, unconditional love, blind faith, and positive attitude.

Yes, these are important, but there is more to it.

You might think that what we learn from children is a reflection of, or has to do with, the 15 Ways To Be The Man God Calls You To Be.

Yes, but there is still more to it.

Doing an online search, here are what I found as the top 12 lessons we learn from our children:

1. Be yourself 2. Just be happy 3. Skip 4. Make friends 5. Say what you mean, mean what you say 6. Smile 7. Relax… take a nap 8. Sing 9. Be fearless 10. Wonder about everything 11. Explore 12. Play.

I don’t know about you but, I am still working on some of these and, wonder if doing all of them eventually can be reality.

Read on ….

Here is some hope.  If you look at the Catechism of the Catholic Church, it reads at 2228: “Parents’ respect and affection are expressed by the care and attention they devote to bringing up their young children and providing for their physical and spiritual needs. As the children grow up, the same respect and devotion lead parents to educate them in the right use of their reason and freedom.”

…. 2227: “Children in turn contribute to the growth in holiness of their parents. Each and everyone should be generous and tireless in forgiving one another for offenses, quarrels, injustices, and neglect. Mutual affection suggests this. The charity of Christ demands it.”

Does this sound familiar? I think it humanizes all that I said above.

In other words, when you look at Bishop Perry’s Virtues of a Catholic Man, the first item is that “A Catholic man has some sense of what or whom he would die for if necessary” …  and the sixth item is “A Catholic man practices presence with his wife and children”.   

So, what we learn from our children I think is the great responsibility, and gift, God gives us as a Father to make a direct impact on our present generation and the generations to come. As I often say, when you foster a Man in holiness, the positive adjustments he makes creates a upstanding man, husband, or father, and this impact can be felt for three generations.

The time we spend with our family should never be a second thought. It should always be our first thought. Yes we fall short at times but, we only fail when we give up.

This generation of Christians is responsible for this generation of Souls on the earth. If you are not there as Dad to teach them, they learn from the world.

Fathers are, and should be, an positive example to our children and our culture of who Jesus is. So, it should not be a burden to be a Father but, rather, a privilege to carry the torch for what Christ’ example did for us all.

As many good teachers will tell you, the positive lessons shared with our children, what they give back is way more than what we could ever give.


Frank J Casella

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Single Fathers: Parenting Great Kids

Whether or not you are a single Father, us men usually don’t know how to respond to support and embrace single parenting. Face it, most single parents in the home it’s known are women. But not all. So here comes along a wonderful podcast by Dr. Meg Meeker, MD #68: Single Fathers (with guest Robert Beeson), click link and scroll down.

Be sure to listen to the end where Dr. Meeker shares some insightful bullet points for all men to know and remember, in the event we are either faced with ourselves, or encounter other men, in single Fatherhood.

 

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Seven Tips to Raising Healthy Boys

Being a parent can often seem a daunting task. But I’m here to tell you that almost every parent has what it takes to raise healthy sons. You have the intuition, the heart, and, yes, the responsibility to change the life of your son for the better.

via Seven Tips to Raising Healthy Boys | Meg Meeker, M.D..

 

 

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CMCSVirtues – Abp. Cordileone

“It is a scientific fact that human life begins at conception.  This has been established in medical science for over 100 years. Catholic moral teaching acknowledges this scientific fact, and has always affirmed the grave moral evil of taking an innocent human life.

“This has been the consistent teaching of the Church from the very beginning, a teaching already discernible in the natural moral law, and so a teaching from which no Catholic can dissent in good conscience.”

Archbishop Cordileone

 

 

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