Stability of a Father

How a Father is like a Godly figure to his children.

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Stability – A Father is like a tower to a child’s life, a Godly figure of carrying us and being our hero. (Copyright 2013 Frank J Casella on Fine Art America)

I yanked this picture out of my archives, because I think it sends an important message. We need to have pictures like this as examples to carry through the generations. Because the importance of this is taken for granted.

I recently went to a parade with my family. Next to us was a little girl who wanted her dad to lift her up onto his shoulders. But dad refused, several times. The girl looked crushed, as did her mom. You might think because she didn’t get what she waned, but what I saw in her eyes was she wanted her Dad, and she wanted him to save the day and not only let her look down the road at the parade coming, but to carry her and be her source of stability.

Instead, Dad would rather stare at his phone, or put his hands on his wife’s butt. Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and place for these, and a parade with family is not it. The roll of the Father is to set the tone for the household and to get his family to Heaven.

Likewise, my family has a rather old Golden Retriever Dog. He has been though so much we call him The Wonder Dog, and his name is Buddy. When Buddy comes into the house now he has trouble going up the three stairs, we have to lift up his butt to provide support because he can’t do it alone.

This got me to thinking how much God is always there to lift us up with a similar kind of support. How, like Buddy, when we are afraid or can’t do it alone, God is there to lift us up and to trust Him. And the same goes for what we do as dad’s, to lift up our family to provide support and stability … and trust.

This doesn’t matter how much money you make, or what your identity in the world is, when you are a dad you will always be a dad, and your children look up to you as a Godly figure no matter if they tell you this or not.

Frank J Casella

What We Learn From Our Children As Catholic Dad’s

By Frank J Casella

You might think that, in talking about what we as Catholic Dads learn from our children, I would share with you the lessons of patience, imagination, humor, creativity, persistence, taking risks, enthusiasm, unconditional love, blind faith, and positive attitude.

Yes, these are important, but there is more to it.

You might think that what we learn from children is a reflection of, or has to do with, the 15 Ways To Be The Man God Calls You To Be.

Yes, but there is still more to it.

Doing an online search, here are what I found as the top 12 lessons we learn from our children:

1. Be yourself 2. Just be happy 3. Skip 4. Make friends 5. Say what you mean, mean what you say 6. Smile 7. Relax… take a nap 8. Sing 9. Be fearless 10. Wonder about everything 11. Explore 12. Play.

I don’t know about you but, I am still working on some of these and, wonder if doing all of them eventually can be reality.

Read on ….

Here is some hope.  If you look at the Catechism of the Catholic Church, it reads at 2228: “Parents’ respect and affection are expressed by the care and attention they devote to bringing up their young children and providing for their physical and spiritual needs. As the children grow up, the same respect and devotion lead parents to educate them in the right use of their reason and freedom.”

…. 2227: “Children in turn contribute to the growth in holiness of their parents. Each and everyone should be generous and tireless in forgiving one another for offenses, quarrels, injustices, and neglect. Mutual affection suggests this. The charity of Christ demands it.”

Does this sound familiar? I think it humanizes all that I said above.

In other words, when you look at Bishop Perry’s Virtues of a Catholic Man, the first item is that “A Catholic man has some sense of what or whom he would die for if necessary” …  and the sixth item is “A Catholic man practices presence with his wife and children”.   

So, what we learn from our children I think is the great responsibility, and gift, God gives us as a Father to make a direct impact on our present generation and the generations to come. As I often say, when you foster a Man in holiness, the positive adjustments he makes creates a upstanding man, husband, or father, and this impact can be felt for three generations.

The time we spend with our family should never be a second thought. It should always be our first thought. Yes we fall short at times but, we only fail when we give up.

This generation of Christians is responsible for this generation of Souls on the earth. If you are not there as Dad to teach them, they learn from the world.

Fathers are, and should be, an positive example to our children and our culture of who Jesus is. So, it should not be a burden to be a Father but, rather, a privilege to carry the torch for what Christ’ example did for us all.

As many good teachers will tell you, the positive lessons shared with our children, what they give back is way more than what we could ever give.

Frank J Casella

What did your Dad teach you?

Catholic Chicago Men —

With Father’s Day here, we’d thought it be a good idea to do something different for this blog entry.

Instead of an article about the importance of Dad’s, and what we pass on to our children, we’d like to hear from you and let your comments collectively make up a page or ‘article’ about what Father’s Day means to you, or what you learned from your Father or a Father figure in your life.

Are you in?

You know, things like values, virtues, faith etc, and not so much “he taught me to fix a flat tire”, etc.  And limit your responses to 150 words or less.

Think you can do this?

We’ve opened up the comments this time, so just scroll to the bottom of this page, type your sentence in the box below, and follow the prompts. There will be a delayed post when you comment.

We’d like to do this every few weeks, so lets see if we can get a page full of responses!

Happy Father’s Day!


The ‘Presence’ That Keeps on Giving

By ‘being there,’ dads give their families a great gift

By Bill Dodds

My dad wasn’t big on giving advice, but he was a star when it came to living advice. This became clear to me recently when my thoughts turned to my childhood and my father after reading Pope Francis’ two talks on fatherhood. Both are part of the pontiff’s series on the family in preparation for the World Meeting of Families this September in Philadelphia.

Dad never said, “This is how to be a good husband and a good father.” He demonstrated how it was done. He was a good husband. A good father. A good man.

Pope Francis would have liked my dad, and vice versa. Francis’ advice to fathers would have resonated with my father, just as it resonates with me today. Here are a few of my favorite teachings from two addresses the pope gave.

His first talk was on how fathers aren’t as domineering as they were in the past but now, too often, they are absent. The second talk zeroes in on the essentials of being a good father.

via The ‘Presence’ That Keeps on Giving | Fathers for Good.