Manhood Monday: A Change of Heart

Your weekly dose of “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man”.

From Today’s Readings:

Alleluia  Mk 1:15

R. Alleluia, alleluia.
The Kingdom of God is at hand;
repent and believe in the Gospel.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

With repent, John the Baptist calls for a change of heart and conduct, a turning of one’s life from rebellion to obedience towards the gospel of God: not only the good news from God but about God at work in Jesus Christ.

Repent, yes.

Believe, yes.

But a different kind of obedience; rather Jesus invites by saying, follow me. He wants us to want to do it, his will, not ours; out of love

It is not only important for us to repent and believe, but then to be ambassadors of the faith through our actions, of God’s promises. All true repentance begins in the heart, and only God can give us a new heart.

God bless your week.

The CMCS-Team


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Photo: ‘At the Heart of Everything’ Copyright 2015 Frank J Casella on Fine Art America
Catholic Archbishop of Chicago, Cardinal Blase Cupich, makes time for Holy Adoration before Mass at Infant Jesus of Prague Parish in the Archdiocese of Chicago.
Draw Near to God

God is love, and invites us to draw near to Him. So that we can be illuminated with His Light, and allow Him to remove the fog we often have with finding our purpose.

“Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you of two minds.”

James 4:8

Thanks for Reading.

Make it a great week. See you back here again next Monday.

Frank J Casella,
CMCS Executive Director

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Giving Thanks. Living In Peace.

Life, and the persons we share it with, is too short.

12We ask you, brothers, to respect those who are laboring among you and who are over you in the Lord and who admonish you, 13and to show esteem for them with special love on account of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. 14We urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, cheer the fainthearted, support the weak, be patient with all. 15See that no one returns evil for evil; rather, always seek what is good [both] for each other and for all. 16Rejoice always. 17Pray without ceasing. 18In all circumstances give thanks, for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.

1 THES Chapter 5:12-18

I have a confession to make. I have lived through at least seven car accidents while I was the driver. None of them have I caused, just my being in the wrong place at the ‘right’ time. However, all of them caused me to reflect on me asking “why did that happen”?!!

But that’s not the real confession ….

The confession is that all of those accidents revealed my unfinished business in that moment had I died, and how I needed to work on each day to correct things that went wrong ‘yesterday’ … and (do that) for the rest of my life. As a Catholic man, it is my responsibility, as it is yours, to be a spiritual leader for our family and an example of our relationship with Christ!

Our first ministry is to get our faimily to Heaven.

I’m sure if you ask your priest or deacon they will tell you the number of people they see at funerals who’ve gone up to bodies and weeping over unsettled issues. The closer you get to people, the more you have disagreements.

It seems that everywhere you look people want to fight you. And today both online and offline. Conflict resolution involves making right towards others to be at peace with all people – and we can’t change others until we can change ourself first.

Bishop Perry’s Men’s Forum 2018

Every day you and I need to work toward living and being “The Goodness of a Catholic Man”, and a servant leader after God’s own heart. Many times we have good intentions but hide behind, or allow, things that distract us to never take action on our responsibilities: prayers or the Cross, the TV clicker, your fears, gossip, sports, money, pornography, work …. the list goes on.

What do you hide behind ?

If you are married, are you and your wife a “gift” to each other, or do you repay evil for evil? Do either or both of you withdraw from the other to make them “pay the price”? Do you threaten divorce instead of work on better communication, no matter what it takes? If so, what is it going to take for you to look at each other in the eyes and say ” YOU ARE NOT MY ENEMY!!! “

Men – how do you talk to your wife? You may have issues, but she is the ONE (that you married and thus God gave to you), and so treat her like the queen of your household. Because she is!! I have learned, when our wives are unhappy, more often than not it’s because of our selfishness (just saying), by not filling her with our love and affection in the way God that made her.

What about your family members: children, siblings, parents, cousins, uncles and aunts … and even close friends … to name a few? As Father Larry Richards says, “the best way to set people free is with your love, not your judgement”. Yes, sometimes we need to tolerate family or friends, and other times we need to remove persons from our lives because they cause a threat to our health or to our life. But, otherwise, Christ calls us in all things to respect each other as a person, as a man or as a woman, no matter how we feel about them.

The reality is that God doesn’t need you or me to do His work! He needs us to love people and let them experience an example of what it is to be Catholic! To be contagious with our Faith!! Spiritual poverty is very common because of our hard hearts. To become the body of Christ we all need to be renewed in prayer.

Let us bring our questions to Jesus. Let Him show us through this renewal how to witness the way in His love.

…. So, going forward, I challenge you to take the steps needed to take care of unfinished business! You know what it is.

Instead of tolerating those persons or issues, this time tackle them like a football superstar … even if it means to make a stop at confession as a first step. Reconciliation and Forgiveness is not a bad thing. Pride and dictating is. In your position of spiritual leadership in the home, responsibility and integrity matters!

Pray is the best way. God, through our action, will then show us how to do the rest.

Life, and the persons we share it with, is too short. You never know what tomorrow will bring.

Frank J Casella

The Theology of Manhood

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The Theology of Manhood

If you’ve been reading news headlines recently, you’ll find more and more articles and opinions about what a Man is, or what it means to be a Man. Manhood simply is the qualities traditionally associated with men. How you’ve been raised, and your personal experiences, determine greatly your world view.

The mission of Catholic Men Chicago Southand Apostolate (CMCS), who sponsors this blog, is to nurture Catholic men’s spirituality – the theology of manhood. If you would like to donate to CMCS, please visit our landing page for more information.

Through this blog Bishop Perry and I contribute our own writing to the articles out there, however, from those we share with you on Twitter and the CMCS LinkedIn Page on what is being said through the lens of the many Catholic publications and blogs about the theology of manhood.

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In His Grip,

Frank J Casella
CMCS Exeutive Director

Manhood Monday: The Authority of Jesus

Your weekly dose of “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man”.

From Today’s Readings:

Monday of the Third Week of Advent

Alleluia  PS 85:8

R. Alleluia, alleluia.
Show us, LORD, your love,
and grant us your salvation.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

From today’s Gospel in Matthew [21:27], since through embarrassment on the one hand and fear on the other the religious authorities claim ignorance of the origin of John’s baptism, they show themselves incapable of speaking with authority; hence Jesus refuses to discuss with them the grounds of his authority.

As Catholic men, how important is it for us to respect authority?  What type of leadership do we have with others, in the community, at work, with our family?  In order for us to expect authority, we have to first respect others authority.

Jesus commands authority because he is submissive to the will of the Father, and thus his holiness is magnetic.  He is not on his own agenda.  For example, if you work for a company and practice your own authority, usually you won’t work there very long. Likewise, with your family, if you are a dictator instead of a servant leader, then you show yourself incapable of respecting authority.

One purpose of Advent is to bring us back to God, and to foster renewal for the mission of our salvation through the Christ Child. Because when men put God first all else falls into place.

The CMCS-Team


Frank’s Photo of the Week

Photo: ‘When Men Put God First‘ Copyright Frank J Casella. Prints | Cards

“See, our vision is very clear. Really, one of the biggest challenges we have, as an apostolate, has been casting this vision and trusting God that it would land with church leaders — that when you nurture Catholic Men’s spirituality, and foster men in holiness, everybody wins

…… there are others who are going to benefit.

For CMCS, we know that when you foster a Man in holiness, the positive adjustments he makes can create a upstanding man, husband, or father, and this impact can be felt for three generations

…. and everybody wins.”

Thanks for Reading.

Make it a great week. See you here again next Monday.

Frank J Casella,
CMCS Executive Director

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Catholic Men and Divorce

A resource for men.

“You should be on guard, then, for your life, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.”

Malachi 2:15
Photo: ‘Applause‘ Copyright 2016 Frank J Casella

Like too many Catholic husbands and marriages today, I have been faced with the possibility of divorce in my almost 30 year marriage. Fortunately, my wife and I worked through this devistating period of our lives – truly by the grace and mercy of God! But not without the feelings, anger, emotions, and all the ‘stuff’ that comes with it.  It is always a constant work in progress, for a lifetime.

As I talk with other Catholic men about marriage and divorce in our time, it is evident to me that marriage is under attack in our culture, if not our world – especially with people of Faith!

The number of weddings – between a man and a woman – is down, people are cohabitating more often than not, and Satan is using every means possible to confuse our thinking and distract what we truly believe. And the holidays – Thanksgiving through New Year’s – is widely known as a time when divorce has most impact on our lives and relationships, direct or indirect.

Avoiding Divorce

While divorce removes some pressures, it creates a host of others, says Dr. Gary Chapman in his book ‘The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional’.  If you are considering divorce, only a small percentage of divorced individuals claim to have found greater happiness in a second or third marriage.  “The grass being greener on the other side of the fence is a myth”, he says.

Divorce should be the last possible alternative, because far too many couples opt for divorce too soon and at too great a price. It should first be preceded by every effort at reconciling differences, dealing with issues, and solving problems. When couples seek and find proper help, many have reconciled.

Guys have Hope!

With the right information and proper support, you can be a positive change agent in your relationship. Follow God’s advice and guard your heart, remain faithful to your spouse and seek help. The path towards divorce is filled with more pain and difficulty, believe it or not. Healing takes time. God’s time.

One thing I decided to do in my experience with divorce is to change my perspective and change myself first. I didn’t know about it at the time, but this too is what Dr. Ray Guarendi says “You can’t change your spouse’s behavior and attitude. But you can change yours.” in his book ‘Marriage: Small Steps, Big Rewards’ .  So I will share more on this in another blog post.

A Resource for Men

When I went through my divorce experience I found there was very little online about men and divorce, as much as there was for women. So I decided then to do something about it by writing more articles – and this is one of them. It just has been taking some time in listening to the Holy Spirit about how to go about it. So now, in due time, you can use the keyword ‘divorce’ in the search bar on this blog and have yourself a resource. God bless you!

Frank J Casella

Manhood Monday: The Women Among Us

Your weekly dose of “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man”.

From Today’s Readings:

Alleluia  See Lk 1:28

R. Alleluia, alleluia.
Hail, Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you;
blessed are you among women.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

In the Gospel reading for today, [1:3637] The sign given to Mary in confirmation of the angel’s announcement to her is the pregnancy of her aged relative Elizabeth. If a woman past the childbearing age could become pregnant, why, the angel implies, should there be doubt about Mary’s pregnancy, for nothing will be impossible for God.

Mary’s womb is known by the Church as the First Tabernacle, for her saying ‘Yes” and believing in the impossible. God needed a woman first to bring His plan of salvation into the world.  

This is why us men should place our own mothers and wives and daughters in the rightful place of honor and respect, and pray the Lord be with them and bless them among women.  Do you think this would bring a new light or perspective in your relationships with them?

The best way to make your spouse and children feel secure is not with big deposits in bank account, but with little deposits of thoughtfulness and affection in the ‘love account’.

Zig Ziglar

The CMCS-Team


Frank’s Photo of the Week

Photo: ‘True Prosperity’ Copyright 2011 Frank J Casella

True Prosperity

When we walk in the way that we should go, and treat others the way we would like to be treated, we find true prosperity.

Those who follow you, Lord, will have the light of life.

Thanks for Reading.

Make it a great week. See you here again next Monday.

Frank J Casella,
CMCS Executive Director

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Manhood Monday: Preparing for Salvation

Your weekly dose of “Living the Goodness of a Catholic Man”.

From Today’s Readings:

Alleluia  SEE PS 80:4

R. Alleluia, alleluia.
Come and save us, LORD our God;
let your face shine upon us, that we may be saved.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

In today’s Gospel it reads: “Lord, I am not worthy to have you enter under my roof;
only say the word and my servant will be healed.”

We pray this prayer every time that we worship at Mass. It is a prayer of faith and trust in the Lord.

When we let people under our roof, or into our home, they come to know more of who we are. How much more, then, Jesus Christ!  What religious subjects do you have in your home that tells of who you are?

Likewise, inviting the Lord under our roof could mean also to open up to Him our own lives. A way that our lives can be a work in progress, as men, is to humble ourselves to receive the Lord’s blessings that we may be saved.

This Advent, allow God’s vision of peace to inspire you: be vigilant and attentive, and be prepared.

The CMCS-Team


Frank’s Photo of the Week

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Photo: ‘Let There Be Peace On Earth‘ Copyright Frank J Casella Prints | Cards

This war torn world needs healing.

More personal, though, under our own roof we all need healing of some kind.

I have found that when we look to the Lord for the healing of others, somehow it affects our own healing.

A simple prayer:

Come and save us, LORD our God;

Let your face shine upon us, that we may be saved.

Let there be peace on earth. Let it begin with me.

PS 80:4

Thanks for Reading.

Make it a great week. See you here again next Monday.

Frank J Casella,
CMCS Executive Director

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