Fatherhood: What is your ID as a Man?

While growing up my Father often said to my siblings and I “You’re a Casella, and Casella’s don’t do that”. He was referring to how our words and actions reflect the identity of our name.

As Men, we carry forward the responsibility to define what our (family) Name means for this generation. Men, we all make mistakes, but we need to example to our kids how to clean it up when we fall, and not cry over spilled milk, and move on.

Our job is to balance out what Mom says, because there is something important about the voice of Dad that determines in our kids the image they see of themselves as a person and member of society.

Recent studies tell us that Dads determine the church habits of their children and thus to a significant degree their eternal destiny. According to one study, if a father doesnʼt go to church no matter how faithful the mother is, only one child in fifty will become regular church goers.

In other words, a Father has the power to pass on blessings or curses to his wife and family. In order to be a blessing, though, we as men must first be open to receiving the blessings.

Likewise, the reason I believe that God has his hands on America is that America is pro-Israel. Genesis 48:15 shows how blessing are spoken by Fathers. We shape the image of our wife by what and how we speak to her.

Daughters will marry someone who disrespects her because our actions as her Father (to her Mother) illustrate to her this is how life works. When we speak positive encouragement to our daughters about who she is as a person and a women, it gives her more confidence to be more than just a pretty face to men.

Men, we need to speak to our kids about their future by painting for them a picture of success.

The relationships of parents greatly affects the psyche of our kids. Kids need to see us men hold our wife and kiss her in appropriate ways. Likewise, our sons and daughters need to have from us hugs and meaningful touches of affection otherwise they view us as too authoritative.

Moms do the nurturing, but it is Dad who provides respect and stability in our kids through, not long conversations but, little snippets of (Godly) wisdom.

Guys! we are the domestic priest of our house, and we need to example and speak to our family about identity and what it means to be a _____ [insert your Name here].

Commit to correcting their path. God uses the broken experiences of our lives to turn it into His glory, if we are open to letting Him.

Receive these blessings and pass it on. You only fail when you give up.

Frank J Casella

Author: Catholic Men Chicago Southland

Catholic Men Chicago Southland (CMCS) fosters Catholic Men in personal holiness to make Jesus Christ the center of our daily lives, and sponsor of the Bishop Perry Catholic Chicago Men's Forum. CMCS is Catholic Apostolate of Most Reverend Joseph N. Perry of Chicago. Executive Director, Frank J. Casella Vision: To Nurture Catholic Men's Spirituality in the Chicago Southland

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  1. In having conversations with my adult children now I am often amazed about how closely they observed my actions and behaviors as a father. We truly are a model for our kids as they grow and mature. They can recall things that happened or words I said from when they were about 5 years old. Every year we saved enough money to take 7 to 10 day car or plane trip. Many times we went to the southern part of the U.S. They remember both Marie and I insisting on attendance at Sunday mass no matter how out of the way we had to go. They remember attending mass in the basement of a funeral home and in a spacious trailer. When they came home from college semester breaks they went to mass with us. That was required. They also remember the more mundane things like how well we took care of our dogs. Tim mentioned all these things and more at a speech he gave at our 50th wedding anniversary party.

    God bless you and your family,

    Bob Cyborski

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