NEHEMIAH Chapter 4 – the wall was completed to half its height around the entire city, for the people had worked together with enthusiasm. What are your goals, and how do you incorporate prayer, and other people, to complete them?
What’s your shared goals? The players on an athletic team do not all perform the same tasks, but they do have the same goal. That was also true when Nehemiah led the Israelites to rebuild the wall. But the ultimate goal was not the wall as much as it was about their safety.
Some of them rebuilt gates, some carried materials, and others stood guard, watching for those who wanted to sabotage the work. The individuals had separate tasks, but they were united in their ultimate goal: making the city of Jerusalem safe again.
The same approach can be applied to harmony in your marriage and other relationships. The goal for this too can result in protecting our marriage covenant. What rolls do you play? For example, around my house since we don’t have a dishwasher, I told my wife that I will be the ‘dishwasher’ until we can buy one (that was 28 years ago, so I guess that means I’m doing a good job!). Likewise, there are certain behaviors that I practice around women (and my wife around men) that protects our marriage.
If we want harmony and intimacy in our relationship, then we must each do our part of the work. Yes, reaching your goals often involves teamwork.
Frank J Casella is a professional photographer, and cofounder of the Catholic Chicago Men’s Forum